The Curse of LovelyMany people's lives, relationships, careers, and wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved, and accepted they must limit themselves to behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying 'no', avoiding conflict, and putting others' needs before their own. In